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Rating your Dating while Waiting for Mating

October 24, 2004

 

What do you look for in a relationship?

Golden Retriever - Faithful companion for life

Home Depot - Someone to fix you

Walt Disney Fairy Tale - To live happily ever-after?

Alarm Clock - I'm getting old, I'd better catch the next train out of here!

Romance Novel or Maxim Cover Model - I'm in it for the looks!

 

My Score ____ (see below, out of 100 possible)

 

James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4 Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

 

James 1:6b-7 …he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; 8he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.


Psalm 119:11 I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

 

1 Corinthians 7:28b But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

 

Five Areas to Consider:

1. SPIRITUAL COMPATIBILITY

2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

 

1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

 

Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

John 1:12 Yet to all who received Him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God…

 

Prayer of Faith “Dear Jesus, I want a real relationship with you. I realize that I have sinned against you and been my own boss.  I turn from my sin to you, and ask you to forgive me.  Jesus, I know that you died for me and rose again.  So I ask you into my life, as my leader. I accept the forgiveness that you freely give. Thank you for dying for me.  Help me now to live for you. Amen.

 

Score: 0 to 20 with 20 “Yes, we are spiritually compatible” or “Yes if I was dating somebody we would be spiritually compatible” Otherwise, enter a 0 in “My Score”

 

2. Godly Physical involvement guidelines are set up and followed

1 Thessalonians 4:3-6a It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.

 

Score: 0 to 20 with 20 being “Yes, Gody guidelines are being followed completely”

 

3. Have you waited (or are you waiting) on God’s Timing?
Isaiah 26:8 Yes, LORD, walking in the way of your laws, we wait for you; your name and renown are the desire of our hearts.

 

Psalm 130:5-6 I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope. 6 My soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning, more than watchmen wait for the morning.

Psalm 40:1 I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry.

Genesis 16:1-2 Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; 2so she said to Abram, “The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her.” Abram agreed to what Sarai said.

Score: (0 to 20 with 20 being “I’ve waited on God and He has brought us together or I am waiting on God to bring someone my way in His time”)

4. What is the Character of the person I am dating?
1 Samuel 16:7b The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.

 

Score: (0 to 20 with 20 being “The person I am dating, or will date someday, has Godly character”)

 

5. What is my Contentment Level as a single person 
Philippians 4:11b I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

 

Proverbs 18:24 There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

 

Score: 0 to 20 with 20 being “I am completely content being single.”